An Announcement!

I am not engaged!
I am not dating. Or courting, if that's what you must call it.
I'm not "talking", I've got my eye on no one (this side of the Pond, this side of 30, or this side of the camera lens), and as far as I know, no one fancies me.
And that's okay.

You see, a friend of mine wrote a brilliant post about feeling lonely when you're single. You really should take the time to read it; it's fantastic.
And while loneliness is part of it, there's also that factor of desperation.
"There must be something wrong with me."
"If I don't find him now, I never will."
"Maybe there's nobody out there for me."
Um, likely not, probably not, and almost certainly not true.

The thing I see people do sometimes, though, is settle.
They didn't get who they thought they would, they're rebounding, and they go for just anyone.
I understand what it's like to hurt.
I understand what it's like to be lonely.
I understand what it's like to want to settle just to be with somebody, anybody.
But y'all, understand that when you settle, chances are there will be more pain.
Pain to your heart, pain to his heart, and pain to God's heart.

He made you beautiful.
He wrote every bit of your personality.
He loves you, and the man He has for you He made to be your other half.
Giving bits of your precious heart away to anyone but that will only cause pain in the long run.

Don't get me wrong, I'm not perfect. And - for the record - I'm not saying that you are, either.
We all have things to work on.
We could all be more mature.
We could all be more Christ-like.
But these things aren't a checklist to occupy our time while we're waiting.
Someone (and I'm not going to Google this because, just watch, it'll be attributed to at least three different people) said that a girl should be so lost in God that he's got to be so lost in God to find her.
I think that's true to an extent: we should always be growing closer to God period.
But if we think we've gotta be "there", if we think the work in us has got to be "completed" before God brings us the one He's got for us, we are quite mistaken.

God designed men to be leaders, specifically the spiritual leaders of the home.
What use is there in having a leader for the journey if you're both "there?"
None.

You'll never be "there" this side of Heaven.
I'll never be "there" this side of Heaven.
He'll never be "there" this side of Heaven.
But God knows what He's doing, which frankly is awesome because I have no idea what I'm doing.

Knowing that, I'm content to wait.
I'm content to be single.
I'm content to be one of the few people in my group of friends who's not engaged.
While it may hurt, while I may feel alone, I know I'm never completely alone.

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