Why I am Not a Feminist

I've written about this kind of thing before, but what I'm going to say will still shock and probably offend some people, but hear me out.

I am not a feminist.

Still breathing? No? Well, catch your breath and keep reading.

No, I'm not stupid.
No, I'm not brainwashed.
No, I haven't "succumbed" to the so-called patriarchy.
I have an actual problem with feminism as I have seen it both portrayed and fleshed out.

Let's start with the ideology behind feminism.
In a world view based on evolution, the fittest survive. This could be the strongest, the fastest, or the smartest. In today's politically correct world of über sensitivity, people feel they have to find a way to somehow level what they feel is an uneven playing ground. Now, I want a second to say here that yes, women have not always been treated fairly or as they should have been. But I don't think feminism is the answer, and here's why.
Feminism today does not empower women. Feminism today simply puts down men. In what universe this makes everyone equal, I have no idea. It's sort of like the homosexual and transgender movement, where they say they want the same rules, but then they turn around and ask for different rules. Like, a man who becomes a woman and then demands to use whatever bathroom they want.
Feminists shout and scream for extra pay (they say they only make $0.77 to a man's $1.00) whereas men don't.Now, I've done a fair bit of reading about this, and I've been reliably told that this statistic does not account for the fact that men typically choose to go into higher paying jobs - usually those in the mathematics or computational fields - and women typically choose to go into lower paying jobs - like education. Secondly, the stat doesn't account for the fact that some women choose to leave their careers or work less hours when they have children. Having worked for both a corporation and a small business that employs both men and women, I feel I can safely say that there are few (not no, there are some jerks out there) but few employers who won't pay their employees the same wage for the same job.

Ah, but they'll point to "rape culture". They'll argue that it doesn't matter what they wear, men shouldn't rape them. This is true: men shouldn't rape women. But it is not "victim blaming" to say that they shouldn't have worn clothes that evoked sensuality. Yes, a school girl wearing a modest outfit can be grabbed and raped, and that would be just as wrong. But pretending that you can wear whatever you want - clothing designed to make men look at you lustfully - and it won't have an affect on a man's behavior is insanity, and that's why they're seeing no progress. Insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result. The world doesn't work that way, and admitting it doesn't upsets their entire ideology. It demands that women take some personal responsibility for their behavior... which, despite their insistence that they are just as smart and physically capable as a man, they don't want that right... Wonder why...

This leads to another point: women have fought for the right to make their own choices, and that's fine, but when a woman makes a choice that doesn't fit the narrative, suddenly she's an outcast. (You can reference that wonderful openmindedness in the post I linked at the top.) Feminists and liberals (usually one and the same, but not always mutually exclusive) will demonize and harass any woman who decides to vote and live conservatively and, dare I say, normally with men. You can see this when pretty much any woman on any mainstream media network talks about a woman at Fox News.
When this occurred to me, I had to sit there and think this through. They're telling me that I am smart enough to make my own decisions and make my own money... but then they yell at me when I make my own decisions and make my own money because I'm not making the decision they want me to and I'm not earning my money the way they want me to.

Um... no thank you.

If this is feminism, I don't want it, and here's why.

First, I believe that God created man and woman in His image. Boom. That's equality right there. You don't have to argue and conjecture anymore.
Secondly, I do believe in equality. But equality should be achieved by bringing someone up, not tearing someone down. Literally the most non-constructive thing you could do (but then, I don't believe feminists are really interested in being constructive).
Thirdly, I honestly do not care if I make $0.77 to a man's $1. Call me shallow, call me clueless, I don't care. As long as I can pay my bills and live comfortably, I am fine. I don't need anything handed to me. Especially not birth control.
(Do these feminist pro-"choice" activists realize that about 53% of aborted babies are female? And lesbian, according to their scientific "research"? [I say "research" because they say people are born homosexual and you can't change that... but sexuality is fluid and you can change...?]) Sorry not sorry for the rabbit trail.
Fourth, I would love to be able to stay home with my kids and be a housewife. This has always been something I wanted, and I was blessed enough to have professors who respected that choice when they asked about my career aspirations. I'm not shortchanging myself. Not to brag, but I know I'm smart. I choose not to have a career. I want kids. And not the average 2.01 kids, either.
Fifth, I don't expect men to be responsible for my actions and choices. I can take personal responsibility for myself, as I fully expect them to do. I'm not excusing rape, I'm encouraging women to be responsible.
And finally, I will use my own brain and do my own research. I won't accept something I'm told unless I have proof it's true and in the proper context. And if that thinking and research leads to a choice feminists don't like, well, they'll just have to be big girls and grow up.